The word tantrum means an uncontrolled outburst of anger and frustration, typically in a young child.
How many of you have witnessed your toddler screaming at you for not buying that toy or not letting him have that extra ride on his cycle?
Remember the judging eyes of people calling you “a bad parent” under their breath? The countless number of articles you have googled and researched? The endless discussions you have had with your child’s pediatrician about his meltdowns?
Toddler tantrums usually begin in children at 12-18 months of age and are at their peak at 2-3 years. Here comes the relief- they subside by age 4 and rarely occur after…
How does a meltdown look like:
4. Hitting siblings/parents
5. Throwing oneself on the floor
6. Head banging
7. Throwing things
These episodes can last for about 5 mins to 25 mins.
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There are many types of tantrums- frustration, temper, etc. but you are not concerned with its types, you are here for ways to handle your child when he’s having a tantrum.
Of Course these tips and tricks are not going to work right away, but over time, using the same behavior pattern, over and over, you can handle each episode better until there aren’t any.
So let’s dive in:
1. Nip it in the bud- That is anticipating its occurrence and preventing it prior to its start. Its the key to handling any toddler tantrum.
Identify situations that might provoke a meltdown in your kid for eg:- while playing with his blocks if my boy cant put one block over the other, he starts screaming, now this is a frustration tantrum arising from the inability to complete a task. So I keep an eye out for it when he’s at play.
2. Keep your cool– this ones the most important tip in handling their episodes.
3. Do not let them sense your concern– if they sense that their behaviour is troubling you then they get stronger and louder in their acts.
4. Remember you are the adult.
If it has already started- then distract them and do not let it escalate further.
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5. Stick to their routine– common, avoidable causes of tantrums are a hungry child and sleepy child. So do not plan outings close to their sleep time to prevent a meltdown. Do not delay their snacks and meals and if you have to then keep some snacks along so your tod has some energy to keep him going.
6. Have a backup– when you are going for an outing or a playdate, or your travelling, keep your child’s favourite toy/blankie/binky/plush toy/snack along with you. This trick has worked wonders for me, just one thing the particular item is to be removed only when a meltdown occurs, that’s what maintains its importance to the child and helps him calm down.
7. Talk it out afterwards– explain to the child what behaviours are unacceptable to you. The key to the success of this method is to do it when you have your child’s attention. Never during the episode.