Hi friends and welcome to Doctormommyspeaks. Raising good kids is a concept that we are all obsessed with as parents. but have you ever thought that maybe it’s us who need to be raised as good parents first?
when I became a parent I had no idea how to go about. But then when the responsibility kicked in, that I am the one raising them, I will be responsible for their actions. That’s when I got a shudder down my spine that my actions will have consequences in the lives of these little people. so here is how I turned into a parent- Mentally. But first, I will start by giving you a taste of what my life looks like from a distance.
To the bystander, I am a Physician, an Author, Host of Doctormommyspeaks Parenting Podcast, content writer, Mother of two happy toddlers. On taking a closer look, you will see a tired exhausted mom, who has too much on her plate. She’s trying to juggle too many things she can handle.
The only difference being she refuses to give up.
So that’s me, the messy bun mom who struggles to meet deadlines and keep her personal life together. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. My work is my passion.
What I also realised is that parents, especially mothers, are superhumans in the true sense of the word. That brings me to the topic of today’s blog post- The theme around which, I will be blogging for a couple of weeks for My Friend Alexa blogging challenge 2020 on Blogchatter
Raising parents right
Sounds weird right? Did you misread it or did I make a mistake? Well, it’s none of that. We have heard this almost 10 times, in tons of parenting books, or TEDx talks, even from our elders, that we need to raise our kids in a certain way. Teach them certain values, cultural appropriation, manners, etc.
Have you ever thought that maybe we need to raise good parents first? In other words, whatever changes you wish to see in your child, you will have to bring those in your life first, make it a habit, live by example. And then only, you can expect a different outcome with your kids.
To prove my point better, here is an example: one fine day you decide it’s time your kids come face to face with the working of this world, and to do that you decide to think of the value you need to instil in them first. You start to look for resources on the net, ask around a bit, about how to teach kids, everyday values that will prepare them for a tough life, and you boil it down to your first lesson.
Let’s teach them about honesty. So you get your hands on the most illustrated, award-winning, age-appropriate book that deals with honesty and the lesson begins and ends in a few mins. You leave your kids with the thought that honesty is the best policy and one should always be honest in whatever he does as did the character in the story.
Next minute your husband gets a call, and he says oh yes sir I am working on the report itself, in fact, I just closed the laptop, I will send the final report in an hour, goodbye. And guess what is in his hand? Not the laptop, the TV remote. No points for the right answer. This is what the children saw. It was something completely contradictory to what they had just, learnt and were asked to practice. How will they do it if they don’t see it? This is the sad but true reality of our houses.
We need to be mindful of the way we parent our children, what we feed into their minds through our actions. Because children are constantly observing us, and learning from us if we do not internalize this fact now, then it will be too late.
So I will be writing about mindful parenting and how it can help transform your parent-child relationship. It will also help you raise an emotionally stable, happy little human. So let’s get started and here is all that you can expect from my blog.
- Common parenting mistake we make with our kids
- Gentle parenting and disciplining-where do we draw the line?
- Understanding toddler behavioural cues
- Different parenting styles and which one will suit you best
- Resources like- Best parenting books, apps and podcasts to help you in your journey of raising a human.
#My Friend Alexa is a blog challenge organised by blog chatter and I am really excited to be a part of it. Looking forward to sharing tons of knowledge, resources and experiences with you.
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This blog is written for Blog Chatter’s “MyFriendAlexa” blogging challenge 2020