Raising Good Parents is the need of the hour.

Raising Good Parents is the need of the hour.

Hi friends and welcome to Doctormommyspeaks. Raising good kids is a concept that we are all obsessed with as parents. but have you ever thought that maybe it’s us who need to be raised as good parents first?

when I became a parent I had no idea how to go about. But then when the responsibility kicked in, that I am the one raising them, I will be responsible for their actions. That’s when I got a shudder down my spine that my actions will have consequences in the lives of these little people. so here is how I turned into a parent- Mentally. But first, I will start by giving you a taste of what my life looks like from a distance. 

Raising kids

To the bystander, I am a Physician, an Author, Host of Doctormommyspeaks Parenting Podcast, content writer, Mother of two happy toddlers.  On taking a closer look, you will see a tired exhausted mom, who has too much on her plate. She’s trying to juggle too many things she can handle. 

The only difference being she refuses to give up. 

So that’s me, the messy bun mom who struggles to meet deadlines and keep her personal life together. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. My work is my passion. 

What I also realised is that parents, especially mothers, are superhumans in the true sense of the word. That brings me to the topic of today’s blog post- The theme around which, I will be blogging for a couple of weeks for My Friend Alexa blogging challenge 2020 on Blogchatter

Raising parents right 

Sounds weird right? Did you misread it or did I make a mistake? Well, it’s none of that. We have heard this almost 10 times, in tons of parenting books, or TEDx talks, even from our elders, that we need to raise our kids in a certain way. Teach them certain values, cultural appropriation, manners, etc. 

 Have you ever thought that maybe we need to raise good parents first? In other words, whatever changes you wish to see in your child, you will have to bring those in your life first, make it a habit, live by example. And then only, you can expect a different outcome with your kids.

To prove my point better, here is an example: one fine day you decide it’s time your kids come face to face with the working of this world, and to do that you decide to think of the value you need to instil in them first. You start to look for resources on the net, ask around a bit, about how to teach kids, everyday values that will prepare them for a tough life, and you boil it down to your first lesson.

Let’s teach them about honesty. So you get your hands on the most illustrated, award-winning, age-appropriate book that deals with honesty and the lesson begins and ends in a few mins. You leave your kids with the thought that honesty is the best policy and one should always be honest in whatever he does as did the character in the story. 

Next minute your husband gets a call, and he says oh yes sir I am working on the report itself, in fact, I just closed the laptop, I will send the final report in an hour, goodbye. And guess what is in his hand? Not the laptop, the TV remote. No points for the right answer. This is what the children saw. It was something completely contradictory to what they had just, learnt and were asked to practice. How will they do it if they don’t see it? This is the sad but true reality of our houses.

We need to be mindful of the way we parent our children, what we feed into their minds through our actions. Because children are constantly observing us, and learning from us if we do not internalize this fact now, then it will be too late.

So I will be writing about mindful parenting and how it can help transform your parent-child relationship. It will also help you raise an emotionally stable, happy little human. So let’s get started and here is all that you can expect from my blog.

  • Common parenting mistake we make with our kids
  • Gentle parenting and disciplining-where do we draw the line?
  • Understanding toddler behavioural cues
  • Different parenting styles and which one will suit you best
  • Resources like- Best parenting books, apps and podcasts to help you in your journey of raising a human.

#My Friend Alexa is a blog challenge organised by blog chatter and I am really excited to be a part of it. Looking forward to sharing tons of knowledge, resources and experiences with you.

For more parenting-related issues like how to handle teens in this pandemic or raising kids in a digital world, ADHD you can visit my podcast 

P.s. My podcast is ranked 11th in the top 25 parenting podcasts of 2020.

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This blog is written for Blog Chatter’s “MyFriendAlexa” blogging challenge 2020 

This Post Has 33 Comments

  1. This article opened my eye to many things I was doing differently as a parent. Thank you for this

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Its heart warming… Thankyou so much.

  2. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna

    Amazing post dear and loved each piece of advice you had offered. In fact I also had this topic to write for my blog post. I agree we need to follow the things first that we accept our kids to do. And many congratulations for podcast milestone. I had listened your podcast and loved it totally. You have an amazing presenting style and super cool voice. Keep it up.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thankyou so much Dr. Surbhi. I am so glad you liked my podcast. And i would to hear your thoughts on parenting because no resources are enough when it comes to parenting… Looking forward to that post. 😊😊😊

  3. Patents must do what they preach. Its easy for kids to follow rather than following what they have been told to follow.

    Great series coming up. I must say.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Absolutely right. Kids are like clay mould them you want but you got to do the initial hardwork

  4. DR. RAHAT SAYYAD, you are so bang on with this. Children watch parents all the time and imbibe every habit of theirs in theor personality. In the new normal, when children watch parents perform professionally as well as they work from home, it is all the more important for parents to be mindful of what they speak and how they behave. This post is well timed.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      That was sweet of you. Your comment made my day😘😘😘 and Thankyou so much.

  5. Roma

    You touched the right chord Rahat, I personally too felt that parenting needed tu evolve a lot during the pandemic and you almost spoke my heart

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thank you so much. We need to parent differently than we were parented. Not that their way was wrong but our times are different

  6. mummatalks

    I loved reading this. Its true one cannot be the best parent over night, it takes tme and it’s also a never ending n learning process as tme and things change. Like our parents raised ur so differently than how we are raising our kids. It’s always changing. One thing my husband n I believe strongly is our kids do what they see so let’s keep our act in check.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Aah thats a lovely way “keep our acts in check” simple yet effective

  7. You are ABSOLUTELY correct on this. Children watch us all the time and imbibe our personality of ours in them. Therefore we should think, scold, misbehave, spell wrong words before we do.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Right Khyatee it their inherent nature to learn from the people and their surroundings. Puts a lot of pressure on us though

  8. Ishieta Chopra

    Interesting point of view and so Very important! Indeed parents need to be conscious and aware of each of their actions as they are constantly being watched by the kids who see parents as their role models.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Yes thats the essence of mindful parenting and thats what we need to be practicing.

  9. Samidha Mathur

    Hey Doctor Rahat, I am pretty sure that like your name, your blog must also be ‘Rahat’ful for many parents. 🙂 This is very true that children are the great imitators and when they see their parents doing a certain thing in a certain, they start imitating them.. And when we, the parents, does not like this, we start yelling at them.. As a result children starts behaving negatively towards the behavior of parents. In short, this can be said as parents-children nature cycle. As you sow, so shall you reap…

    So therefore, in order to raise good children, parents needs to become ‘good’.. 🙂

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thank you so much for your kind words Samidha and you put it in such amazing words!

  10. Amritha Srinath

    This is such a well written post Rahat. I agree with you that we as a society does need parents who are mindful and conscious at all times. Children emulate us everytime and this will be the experience of every parent. So we need to be aware that with our actions, speech and behaviour would directly impact their characteristics.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Yes being mindful of our behavior when kids are around can gey cumbersome. Not if we make it a habit.

  11. Neha Sharma

    Absolutely loved your choice of theme for the MFA campaign. Being parents mean a truck load of responsibility of raising good kids but that surely can happen when we ourselves work on being the good parents. Looking forward to reading your posts.

  12. Atulmaharaj

    Though I’m not a parent, the things you’ve mentioned here are quite insightful. After all kids look up to their parents and hence this needs to be taken care of.

  13. Srishti Rajeev

    I have always been of the same opinion, Children observe and take in all they see. Subconsciously they do and react based on their observations. Parents need parental talks, mock workshops on handling situations. Very happy to read this! Good luck on your podcast!

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thankyou so much. And mock situational tests are such a lovely idea. Because most parents are winging it.

  14. Aarti

    Child is the father of man ! Good one.

  15. Ashvini Naik

    Loved the post totally.

    Such nice pointers that every parent needs to comprehend. Loved the podcast thing too!

  16. Haimanti

    I also feel it is very important to preach our children what we follow… Children, specially toddlers imitate their parents… So it is the duty of the parents to instill positive traits by practicing them in front of the children…. A nice post with such positive advices…

  17. Gleefulblogger

    I absolutely connect to this though process, why make them suffer from our failed attempts to create better human beings. There are so many things, that we human beings first have to unlearn and then re-learn for them to become right examples. Love the way you gave examples to make us understand the point.

  18. Leha

    We often talk about raising good kids, I am glad to see a post that talks about raising good parents. Children look at the actions of parents and follow suit. If parents do what’s right, it makes everything so much easier. This was a lovely article.

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