Lifestyle induced delay in parenthood and Infertility.

Lifestyle induced delay in parenthood and Infertility.

Many new couples fear the word kids. Even bachelors don’t want to talk about it. If you are one of those then I hope you are aware of a concept called Lifestyle induced delay in parenthood that might cause trouble conceiving.

Most couples think that there is still time, and they will conceive and have a well-settled life just like any other couple. What they miss, is the constant ticking of both their biological clocks.


Imagine a love story where you meet just the right man/woman of your dreams and you both click at the first meet. From then on it’s all a roller coaster. From getting to know each other and then your respective families. 

In all this process one thing that is of utmost importance is your own personal dreams and aspirations, and I am stating this irrespective of your gender. 

The usual notion is once we find the love of our life, we are in a rush to get married and settle. It is so because we have been taught so. It’s this society that wants us to conform to their rules set in stone. And if you and your partner wish to tread a path that’s not familiar to society then, you will be shamed. 

lifestyle-induced delayed parenthood

Luckily couples nowadays, whether in an arranged marriage, love marriage or live-in relationship, have started to care less about society. Because why not, they aren’t going to pay our bills nor are they going to silence our guilty conscience at 60 when we regret not taking the desired path. 

So in a bid to reach either our career goals or collecting funds for our retirement plan, couples are delaying parenthood. Some are even doing it, as they wish to spend quality time with each other and create a strong bond before the responsibility of kids sets in. 

This is called lifestyle-induced delay in parenthood and many couples end up with infertility.

According to recent statistics, the average age of a new mother has shifted to 31years where she conceives for the first time and that of her male counterpart 34 to 35 years. 

If one wishes to delay, embarking on the journey called parenthood then it’s perfectly fine. But after knowing the current statistics, one should do so, smartly.  There are many tests that can give the couple a clear idea about one very important thing, and that is for how long can you delay. 

planned parenthood

You might counter-question saying Kareena Kapoor has conceived at the age of 40 then why am I claiming that it’s dangerous to delay parenthood?

It is estimated that 1 in 8 couples or 12% of married women have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy. The numbers are grim but true. 

causes of infertility

Let’s go through the causes of lifestyle-induced delayed parenthood. 

1. Age of the woman

A woman conceiving after the age of 35 is considered a high-risk pregnancy. 

2. Age of the man

Advanced paternal age i.e. >35 years leads to adverse reproductive outcomes for women. 

3. Diet

The ‘western-style’ diet rich in processed foods, red meat, energy drinks reduces the quantity of semen. 

4. Addictions 

Alcohol, smoking addictions, substance abuse are seen not only in males but in females also. They have a direct toxic effect on the sperm motility in males. 

A Danish study, published nearly a decade ago, found that women’s alcohol intake was associated with a reduced chance of conception, especially among women who drank five or more drinks per week.

5. Overweight and obesity

These are associated with reduced quality of sperms.

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6. Other modifiable lifestyle factors

These causes primarily lead to male infertility and include coffee consumption, intense heat stress to the scrotum region as occurs in prolonged sitting conditions (office hours), intense cycling all are detrimental to sperm health. 

Your biological clock is ticking and if you don’t wish to compromise on your career then you can plan ahead. This is more worrisome for a woman than a man. The reason being, women have a fixed number of ova (eggs) that are genetically determined from the time, when you were in the mother’s womb. 

Yes, that early… 

With each passing period cycle, one mature ovum is lost and the number is not replenished with a fresh supply as in males. 

how to concieve

How can we tell with certainty, about the length of your reproductive window? Is there a way to determine the number of ova still left in a woman? 

Not exactly but thanks to the latest scientific advancements, a few tests can help your gynaecologist or fertility specialist to determine your correct biological window on the whole.

1. Anti Mullerian Hormone  (AMH)

Also known as Mullerian inhibiting hormone (MIH) indicates the ovarian reserve of the woman (how many eggs she has) and a good estimate of the number of reproductive years she’s left with.

AMH levels peak around puberty and remain relatively constant until after the menopause. when no follicles remain, and levels of anti-Müllerian hormone become low.

How to go about measuring your AMH levels

It can be tested using a simple blood test that can be done at any time of your menstrual cycle.

how to know if you are infertile

Uses of AMH Level testing:

  1. Planning and conceiving, thus helping you stay ahead of your biological clock
  1.  Determining the response to fertility treatments. 
  1. Deciding an appropriate treatment that will be best suited for the couple
2. Ovarian reserve

It is just a fancy name for your “egg-count”

Another promising and most reliable diagnostic approach for dealing with either infertility or planned conception is checking a woman’s ovarian reserve.

This is a combination of tests like AMH (blood test), VIsualizing the active follicle (ultrasound test) other older tests include measuring the hormones like estradiol, and inhibin. 

So once you have done these two tests then your fertility specialist can determine with certainty, the length of your reproductive window. You can plan a pregnancy accordingly.

what is infertility

How do you know if you or your partner is infertile?

If you fail to conceive after one year of unprotected sexual intercourse then you need to visit your gynaecologist or fertility specialist to get both yourself and your partner checked for causes of infertility. Even if you are diagnosed with infertility then it is not the end of the world. This silent suffering of couples has many happy endings too. You only need to seek help at the right time.

If you are struggling to conceive and are wondering whether you or your partner are suffering from infertility issues?

What causes could it be? Are they modifiable? Then we have an upcoming podcast episode on doctormommyspeaks parenting podcast with Renowned gynaecologist, obstetrician and infertility specialist from Mumbai – Dr. Riddhi Doshi.

how to treat infertiltiy

We have discussed in detail about all causes and treatment modalities for infertility, what you can expect when you visit an infertility clinic and how to go about the treatment plans.

So stay tuned.

I hope you found this post useful and if you have any queries, comments, suggestions, feel free to connect with me. 

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This Post Has 39 Comments

  1. Preetjyot Kaur

    A lot of married couples are going through this. I am so glad to see you share about this in details. I am sure this will help a lot of people make an informed choice.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thanks Preetjyot. The increasing number of cases are actually scary

      1. This is a very informative post in terms of the health impacts in case of delayed ages and tests to be done to rule out complications. All couples should have clear discussion on when they want to have kids and plan only if both are on same page.

        1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

          Absolutely true. it will help avoid tons of problems and suffering, later on in life.

  2. Cindy DSilva

    Wow this is good to know. Also, when you have kids at an older age, you are unable to run after them as you would while being young. This out of experience. I had kids at 29 and 33.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Oh yes that’s true. They need so much of our energy to tend to them especially in their toddler years

  3. Arti Singh

    This is such a comprehensive blog and every couple who is planning or even who have just got married should read this and keep most of the points in mind

  4. Afreen Ansari

    Such a detailed and informative blog. Once thing that is truly important is to know how much time a couple has. Very well explained

  5. Jenifer

    Very well explained with all the possible details required to conceive.

  6. Harjeet Kaur

    Your post is well elucidated and gives the right info.Well, I wish I could share this post with my daughter! She is 31, not yet married and I keep worrying about this. But talking to kids these days is like banging ur head against a brick wall.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      You put it so well. Talking to kids about marriage and kids can be a headache. But this would only help her take control of her life, choices and most importantly her Fertility. If she’s career oriented like others of her age then i feel she would love and you shouldn’t hesitate in talking about it or sharing this info with her.

      1. sonam jain

        this is a wonderful post . lost of couple are facing issues because of age and lifestyle issues.. your post can be helpful to many

  7. ginia

    This is one of the most impt posts I have read in a while. Thanks for informing us.

  8. Gleefulblogger

    What a great informative post this is, it will help many who are dilly-dallying their family planning and taking chances with the biological clock. I am a sufferer myself, my child was born when I was 30 and hence suffered post natal medical complications. It is good to have freedom of starting one’s family, but at the same time must not mess around with the right timings.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Absolutely more so when you have the right resources at your hands

  9. Disha

    It’s a very helpful post for couples to take informed decisions. But, I still feel they should only have kids when both partners are on same page and not just decide without being sure.

  10. Ruchie

    Thanks for sharing this post. I have seen a very close person gone through this!! It is going to help a lot married couple!!

  11. Alpana Deo

    Delay in starting daily is becoming very common these days. Couples are busy in their own career growth and by the time they realize, they are left with a narrow window. Planning is very important.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Absolutely and knowing what options you have is also a good way to start

  12. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna

    I agree lifestyle factors are major cause of infertility nowdays. And many cases by working on those factors give wonderful results and positive pregnancy test. You had listed all possible factors so well in this post. Indeed informative post.

  13. Varsh

    Lot of factors contribute to late parenthood and infertility and it has become quite common now. Thanks to technology that one can hope for a chance at it.

  14. Metamorphosis

    Such an insightful post. I think every one who is married should read this. I am definitely going to share with my friends who are delaying parenthood For some or the other reason.

  15. A very detailed and well explained article indeed we think that since the Western world is now having children later that it must be ok to do so and we don’t realise the risk that one is taking by delaying this helps to understand how one can plan

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Yes a little knowledge about ones own body and fertility can help us plan better

  16. LifeCoachPreet

    This is quite an insighful post. I totally agree with the fact that lifestyle is a major factor for planning a family. I left my flying career for the same reason as I wanted to take a break from the hectic work life before going the family wya.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Thats a Great decision. Prioritizing is really important in life

  17. Snigdha

    This is very important topic and few people should need awareness regarding this. Family planning is good but we shouldn’t ignore the right timing also .

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Yes right timing will only help us enjoy our kids childhood better

  18. mummatalks

    Perfectly mentioned, couples are choosing lifestyle and career over family but I feel they shld also take age into consideration coz you may in the start but as the child becomes young, you will be old to run after them n keep track with their life. I believe everything has a time n doing things beyond that tme does it’s own damage….

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      So true. If you want to enjoy the fruits of parenthood then age is a very important factor that you need to consider

  19. Harjeet Kaur

    I have shared this information with my daughter and her replies are totally crazy..Lets leave it at that is what she always says or I can adopt a child she says, as if its a first option.

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      He he kids today i tell you….. They can act funny. But yes adoption is also a good option. You can always do what a mom does best – keep coaxing her!!! 😂

  20. Gleefulblogger

    Lifestyle choices should not contradict with biological cycle of a person when I absolutely agree to the pause the Independence and choices of a person at the same time we should also look the impact it is leaving on a body this is a very insightful post I am glad to have read it here

    1. Dr. Rahat Sayyad

      Absolutely. No one like a break and one that might turn into a sabbatical. But a prior knowledge about these things will help us plan ahead.

  21. Kinshoo Agrawal

    Important points you have covered about lifestyle. Have seen so many people struggle to conceive. Helpful informative post.

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